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How to Tell if He's LyingMay 24, 2010
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1. Their Legs Say a Lot
If a guy wraps his legs around the legs of a chair or stool, it's an indication that he's purposefully holding something back — like the truth.

2. They'll Give You Pause
Ask a simple, straightforward question — say, "Where were you last night?" or even "Are you cheating on me?" If there's a long pause or he repeats the question before answering, that's trouble.

3. Their Thumbs Betray Discomfort
If he's standing with his entire hand in his pockets — in other words, his thumbs are in, not out — he's feeling nervous. It's up to you to figure out why.

4. They Can't Lie in Reverse
If someone is telling a story you find fishy, ask questions that force him to relate events in a different order. While a person who's concocted a false story can tell it in a,b,c,d order, he'll often find it almost impossible to tell it in d,c,b,a order.

5. They'll Shrug at Odd Times
If he's saying something definitive — "I was with my buddies last night!" — while shrugging one or both shoulders, watch out. The movement indicates that he's subconsciously remaining uncommitted to what he's saying.

6. They Have Big Buts
Listen for phrases like this: "I know you'll think this is strange, but..." or "You're not going to believe this, but..." Chances are, whatever comes next is a lie.

7. Their Tongues Don't Lie
If you ask someone a question and he momentarily flicks out his tongue or licks his lips before answering, he believes he's about to get away with something.

8. They'll Hold Your Gaze
Sometimes a liar is so intent on proving his sincerity he'll stare into your eyes for an uncomfortably long time, trying to prove to you that he has nothing to hide.

9. They Can't Adapt
Just as a liar is unable to reverse the order of events in a falsehood, he also has trouble adjusting when one component is disproven. So if you're able to irrefutably call him out on one facet of a lie and he still refuses to change his story, you can be pretty sure that the rest is B.S. too.

10. They'll Give You a Hand
A liar doesn't want you to examine what he says too closely. And so he'll often unconsciously bring a hand to his face — to scratch a nose, or rub an eye, or stroke a chin — in an attempt to "block" the words as they're coming out of his mouth.

Tell Tale Signs of a CheaterMay 24, 2010
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* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.
* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.
 
* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)
 
* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem "when in doubt check them out".
 
* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.
 
* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).
 
* Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.
 
* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).
 
* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.
 
* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.
 
* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.
 
* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.
 

 

 

Should we instill Religion in our children?May 19, 2010
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Of course I would have much rather slept in on Sunday mornings as a child but I wasn't given

the option and I was FORCED to attend Church EVERY Sunday!! Now looking back however I

am grateful to have been introuduced to religion at a young age as it's not only helped me have some sort

of moral compass for myself but there is also something to be said about having faith, hope and belief in the unknown

and unseen and KNOWING that its all gonna be OK!!

SOOO the question is ..should we almost FORCE children to learn about religion? ..any religion at a young age and ofcourse they

can as they grow older learn about different faiths and decide for themselves as to how religious/spiritual they want to be.

Work Place RelationshipsMay 19, 2010
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What if someone you work with isn't pulling their weight .. do you pick up his/her slack or do you get rid of the dead weight?

If co-workers have outings and events planned all the time should you feel obligated to attend?

How close should you be with your co-workers ..should you try and be-friend EVERY one?

What if your boss is coming on to you.. how would you handle it?

QUOTE OF THE DAYMay 10, 2010
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SInce everyone seemed to like THIS one so much I figured I would it up for you guys to hear and see again:

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when their right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust noone but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." Marilyn Monroe

Break up via email??!!!May 10, 2010
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Sooooo I have "FRIEND" who has been in a relationship for 5 years and has been living with her boyfriend

for the past 4 months. She moved in with hopes of being engaged right away but he hasn't popped the question yet!

She gave him an ultimatum a few weeks ago and he still hasn't popped the question ..sooo fast forward 2 weeks

he goes out of the country for work and she decides to breakup and move out ..but all via email!!! Her defense being

it would be easier and less uncomfortable .. What do YOU think? Is she being a coward and taking the easy way out?

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